This has been bothering me for a few years. I'm really sad, and a bit angry, that I don't have my own traditions. What I mean, is that I have no reason to do anything since the "grown-ups" already do everything. I don't know if I can take it much longer. Alright, so I'm young, I know. I'm 25, and my fiance 28. So maybe my need for my own traditions is silly. After all, I don't even have my own family yet, right?
We both live a bit far from our parents, but we go to his parents for every occasion. I don't really mind this, his family is like my own, and I love spending time with them.
Note: this isn't about spending holidays with MY family. Even though I love the traditions I grew up with, my family and I don't get along that well.
But at the same time, it feels really strange to me not to do anything. Oh sure, we help cook up the holiday dinner, but that's not the same.
I want to do MY dinner. Find my special recipes, have that special ornament on the Christmas tree, that thing we always do before opening the presents, WHEN we open presents... all those little things that make us smile and be happy for tthe holidays.
But I can't even try making a pumpkin pie, or an apple pie, or roast turkey. What's the point, when we always have more leftovers than we could care for, from his parents? I don't even know what's the point of having our own Christmas tree. It's fake (no pun intended). There's no feeling, joy, in it. It's just there.
The closest thing to tradition we have is drinking a Oreo milkshake for New Year's (we don't drink alcohol). His parents say they regret we don't spend New Year's with them, but frankly, we're both introverts, and it gets tiring going to so many big parties one after the other.
Even Christmas... we put up a Christmas tree... that's it. What's the point of doing anything else, when all the Christmas activity is at someone else's home?
How do I get there? *sigh*
We both live a bit far from our parents, but we go to his parents for every occasion. I don't really mind this, his family is like my own, and I love spending time with them.
Note: this isn't about spending holidays with MY family. Even though I love the traditions I grew up with, my family and I don't get along that well.
But at the same time, it feels really strange to me not to do anything. Oh sure, we help cook up the holiday dinner, but that's not the same.
I want to do MY dinner. Find my special recipes, have that special ornament on the Christmas tree, that thing we always do before opening the presents, WHEN we open presents... all those little things that make us smile and be happy for tthe holidays.
But I can't even try making a pumpkin pie, or an apple pie, or roast turkey. What's the point, when we always have more leftovers than we could care for, from his parents? I don't even know what's the point of having our own Christmas tree. It's fake (no pun intended). There's no feeling, joy, in it. It's just there.
The closest thing to tradition we have is drinking a Oreo milkshake for New Year's (we don't drink alcohol). His parents say they regret we don't spend New Year's with them, but frankly, we're both introverts, and it gets tiring going to so many big parties one after the other.
Even Christmas... we put up a Christmas tree... that's it. What's the point of doing anything else, when all the Christmas activity is at someone else's home?
How do I get there? *sigh*